“Not
all teenagers need to date or even want to. … When you begin dating, go in
groups or on double dates. … Make sure your parents meet [and become acquainted
with] those you date.” Because dating is a preparation for marriage, “date only
those who have high standards.”
–President Thomas S. Monson
"Men,
if you have returned from your mission and you are still following the boy-girl
patterns you were counseled to follow when you were 15, it is time for you to
grow up. Gather your courage and look for someone to pair off with. Start with
a variety of dates with a variety of young women, and when that phase yields a
good prospect, proceed to courtship. It's marriage time. That is what the Lord
intends for His young adult sons and daughters. Men have the initiative, and
you men should get on with it.”
–Elder Dallin H. Oaks
“If
you don't know what a date is, perhaps this definition will help. I heard it
from my 18-year-old granddaughter. A 'date' must pass the test of three p's:
(1) planned ahead, (2) paid for, and (3) paired off.”
–Elder Dallin H. Oaks
“Young
women, resist too much hanging out, and encourage dates that are simple,
inexpensive, and frequent. Don't make it easy for young men to hang out in a
setting where you women provide the food. Don't subsidize freeloaders. An
occasional group activity is OK, but when you see men who make hanging out
their primary interaction with the opposite sex, I think you should lock the
pantry and bolt the front door. . . . "My single young friends, we counsel
you to channel your associations with the opposite sex into dating patterns
that have the potential to mature into marriage, not hanging-out patterns that
only have the prospect to mature into team sports like touch football. Marriage
is not a group activity—at least, not until the children come along in goodly
numbers."
–Elder Dallin H. Oaks
“It
can be a wondrously beautiful time of growth and sharing, a time when you
should focus your thoughts, actions, and plans on two individuals: the parents
of your own future children. Prepare to be a successful parent by being
completely worthy in every thought and act during courtship.”
–Elder Richard G.
Scott
“As
you seek an eternal companion, look for someone who is developing the essential
attributes that bring happiness: a deep love of the Lord and of His commandments,
a determination to live them, one that is kindly understanding, forgiving of
others, and willing to give of self, with the desire to have a family crowned
with beautiful children and a commitment to teach them the principles of truth
in the home.”
–Elder Richard G. Scott
“I
suggest that you not ignore many possible candidates who are still developing
these attributes, seeking the one who is perfected in them. You will likely not
find that perfect person, and if you did, there would certainly be no interest
in you. These attributes are best polished together as husband and wife.”
–Elder
Richard G. Scott
“It
is essential that you become well acquainted with the person whom you plan to
marry so that you can make certain you are both looking down the same pathway,
with the same objectives in mind. It is ever so significant that you do this.” –President
Thomas S. Monson
“Once
you make a decision concerning whom you would desire to marry, may you have the
courage to move forward.”
–President Thomas S. Monson
"There
are many qualities you will want to look for in a friend or a serious date--to
say nothing of a spouse and eternal companion--but surely among the very first
and most basic of those qualities will be those of care and sensitivity toward
others, a minimum of self-centeredness that allows compassion and courtesy to
be evident. ‘That best portion of a good man's life [is] his . . . kindness,’
said Mr. William Wordsworth. There are lots of limitations in all of us that we hope
our sweethearts will overlook. I suppose no one is as handsome or as beautiful
as he or she wishes, or as brilliant in school or as witty in speech or as
wealthy as we would like, but in a world of varied talents and fortunes that we
can't always command, I think that makes even more attractive the qualities we
can command--such qualities as thoughtfulness, patience, a kind word, and true
delight in the accomplishment of another. These cost us nothing, and they can
mean everything to the one who receives them."
–Elder Jeffrey R. Holland
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